525,600 Minutes

May 4, 2014

It's been a year since Keith and I got married and became husband and wife.  I've never had a year fly by so quickly!    It's been a year full of highs and lows, but it's been the best year because he's been beside me.

I thank God all the time for giving me someone so sweet and good-hearted.  I think it's a miracle that he's so good at dealing with me and my idiosyncrasies. 

Happy 1st Anniversary to the man of my dreams.   He drives me crazy some days,  but I promise to do everything I can to make sure he always knows how crazy I am about him.  

27 Dresses

Anyone who knows me, knows I love weddings.  Everything about them makes this big mush melt.  I’ve cried at weddings where I didn’t even know the bride and groom (I was the plus one, not a wedding crasher.)  There is something about the flowers, music, dresses, vows, first dance, speeches, etc. that just makes me happy.

I’m not sure if that directly ties in to me being in so many weddings, or if rumor has gotten out that this ain’t my first rodeo so they hire the seasoned vet.  lol  Either way, I thought I’d sit down and try to remember all the weddings I have been a part of over the years. 

1. Kathy and Mark – I was the ripe ole age of maybe 8 when they got married.  I rocked my 80s glasses and a homemade mint green junior bridesmaid dress.  I personally think my Mother could have applied a little extra hairspray to my hair to tame my fly aways, but honestly, when you’re dressed like a dinner mint, your hair is the least of the concerns.  My escort for the event, couldn’t make it into town so I got to walk with the Pastor (who happened to be the man who married me and Keith.)
2. Kristi and Jon – I was a teenager when this one rolled around and we still laugh at some of the stories from this wedding.  From the navy panty hose, the clean hair and faces, to meeting Lori for the first time, this wedding was full of fun memories.  I wore a navy pencil skirt and halter top.  My button popped open as I was walking into the reception and I remember walking with a guy (I think an Uncle) that looked like a local radio station personality.  During rehearsal we realized why my dress was on sale….the back seam wasn’t stitched shut so I was duct taped together for that eventful evening. 
   
3. Theresa and Wes – This was a fun wedding for my best friend (at the time), and was one of the first experiences where I learned how to be a bridesmaid and maid of honor.  I remember writing speeches, dealing with family drama, planning showers and just realizing how much fun it all could be.  I wore a navy blue cap sleeved dress, carried a lit candle adorned with flowers and again, my escort didn’t show (rehab).  I was the maid of honor without a best man. 
4. Jessica and Gabe – The wedding of my childhood best friend was one of my favorites.  It was a small and quaint wedding, but perfectly executed.  We wore royal blue dresses and carried blue and white flowers.  My escort was the half brother of the groom, Greg, and my favorite part of the evening was the best man speech.  Background: The groom was the only guy in our circle of friends in Jr High/High School, so when the Best man asked for all of the girls who had dated the groom to please stand, the whole bridal party (minus her sister) and a whole table at the back of the room had to stand.  We got quite the laugh. 
5. Lori and Rob – This was a wedding full of work and fun.  This was my first time planning a wedding on a strict budget, yet it all came together.  I can’t say that I liked the groom, but being there for the bride was all that mattered.  We wore homemade black and white dresses and my escort was my friend, Chad.  Memories of the reception and after party still make me laugh and smile.
6. Alissa and Chris – This was one of the prettiest weddings I have ever been to.  Alissa and Chris chose a small, quaint venue and put together a gorgeous, personalized wedding.  The only hiccup along the way was some flower drama, but a trip to the dollar store and some reworking solved that and the day was back to perfect.  I love the pictures from her day.  This was the first time I wore “the dress” that I now own in 3 different colors.  For this wedding it was lapis (dark purple) and we carried fall flowers.  I was escorted by the groom’s friend, Brian. 
   
7. Jenna and Chris – I have one word for this wedding:  HOT.  Temperatures were well over 100 degrees, we were outside at an awesome farm/camp ground location and the wedding was amazing, but it was hot!!  I was recovering from neck surgery, there was a major power outage in the area, and we had a lot of work to do.  We all worked together and got it done and the bride was stunning.  This was the only wedding where we did not have a shower, but we did enjoy a mini bachelorette party on her behalf.  Dress shopping with Jenna was one of my favorite trips, because seeing her face when she realized there is a dress for everyone was priceless.  I wore “the dress” in black and it was shortened this time.  We carried yellow flowers and I walked with the groom’s brother, Matt.  I was scared to death to give my MOH speech in front of hundreds of people, but it went off without a hitch. 
   
   
   
8. OUR WEDDING – This one was my favorite.  Enough said =)
   
   

   

   Daddio walking me down the aisle

9. Heidi and Randy – This wedding meant the most to me.  Second only to my own wedding, this was the one that I had looked forward to for a long time.  My sister made a beautiful bride and the whole day was amazing.  My favorite part was when Randy finally pushed his nervousness aside and gave her a real kiss when it was time to kiss the bride.  He was so well behaved and she was gorgeous!!  I wore “the dress” in navy blue and it was shortened again.  We carried pink and white flowers and I walked with the Best Man, Randy’s brother, Cody.  I made it through my Matron of Honor speech with minimal tears and the DJ was the only one to slip up and call her Holly!
   
   
   
   
    
10. Whitney and Paul – The wedding that pushed me into double digits.  Whitney and Paul had a non-traditional take on weddings.  They got married last year and had their official ceremony months later.  The bride did a wonderful job with a fall theme and had one heck of a party on a budget.  I wore a light purple dress and carried a mix of purple wild flowers.  My escort was a crazy guy named Pat and the whole wedding was full of rowdy fun.  My favorite part of the wedding was our pictures….that group was crazy and fun. 

Welcome to the Jungle

The last month has been one of the craziest months of my life.  It takes a lot to earn that title after you’ve been alive for 380+ months!  I don’t even know where to start….just keep in mind that every second that was not filled with the madness detailed below was spent packing, cleaning, moving and stressing. 

August 2 – we officially signed the documents on our new townhouse.

August 3 – helped host a bridal shower for Whitney during the day and hosted Heidi’s bachelorette party that evening.

August 6 – celebrated Lisa’s birthday.

August 10 – loaded up 2 moving trucks full of stuff headed for storage and a (amazing) friend’s garage.

August 12 – 16: coworker took vacation so I was flying solo.

August 12 – got to visit with a good friend who was in from Virginia.

August 15 – bank appointment

August 16 – bought new appliances and lighting for the new house

August 17 – celebrated Collin’s birthday.

August 18 - celebrated Father in Law’s birthday.  Moved mattresses and box springs to storage and moved in with Keith’s sister, Brenda.

August 19 – walk through with builder at new place

August 20 – official loan application at bank.  Major drama with the inspection report on the house we were selling….full meltdown. 

Devil box!!!

August 21 – closed on old townhouse

August 22 – wedding prep

August 23 – wedding prep, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner

August 24 – MY BABY SISTER GOT MARRIED!

August 25 – visited with one of my favorite people in the world, Uncle Bob.

August 26 – Perry started 2^nd grade.

August 27 – ordered new bedroom and living room furniture.  (Please ignore the blurriness).

King Size Bed (Dresser and Nightstand Not Shown)

Couch, Loveseat and Ottoman (Accent chair orderd in a print!)

August 28 – celebrated Heidi’s birthday.  Mild drama with Dan Ryan over decks, almost became homeless again….

Now there are a million and one other fun things mixed in there, but those are the majors.  I realize this list is completely boring to read, but I’m thinking of it more as therapy….typing is cheaper than sitting on the couch!!  Plus along the way some amazing friends (and husband) cheered me up with flowers, edible arrangements, spa giftcards, etc. 

September isn’t going to be much calmer, I can feel it now, but hopefully by October, we should be settling in our new place.  Through it all, I’m thankful for the madness…..this jungle is my life and I wouldn’t trade it…..

Sandy Toes and Salty Kisses

And the Honeymoon begins….

We waited a week after the wedding to leave for our honeymoon because the house was rented out Saturday to Saturday and we didn’t want to lose two days.  I am so thankful for this decision….it saved my sanity!!  So we left work on Friday, May 10^th and after a few errands in town, we hit the highway. 

First stop was Fredericksburg, VA where we got a cheap but clean hotel and a nasty dinner for the night.  We were thankful that the trip got a little classier after this night =)  We’re still laughing at our first hotel choice which we quickly flew (drove) away from when we realized the windows were covered with black trash bags and there were people walking out of the woods….I’m not that much of a bargain shopper!!  We got up early the next morning, grabbed some breakfast and hit the road.  The honeymoon week had officially begun. 

We made it to the Outer Banks around noon and ran errands to kill time until our 4pm check in.  My Dad and Lisa rented our beach house (Name: On The Beach) for a week as our wedding gift and we were so excited to see our home away from home.  We had lunch at Barefoot Bernies, went grocery shopping at WalMart and Food Lion and headed to the check-in office.  We finally arrived at our house….the excitement fully kicked in and we got right to unpacking and carrying everything in.  The house was HUGE and perfect!!!

We did our chores and quickly made our way to the pool for a dip….it was still pretty chilly but overall relaxing.  We finally made it next door to the Rundown Café for dinner and called it an early night.

Over the next week, we did a lot of swimming, sun tanning on the beach, souvenir shopping and plain relaxing.  We drove around and saw some of the other towns, hit the Outlets and just enjoyed our break from the world.  We ate way too much….High Cotton BBQ, Pigman’s BBQ (men and their meat smh), Duck Donuts, Kill Devil Custard, Fireflys, I Got Your Crabs, Captain Georges, Front Porch Café, Mexican, NY Bagels and my favorite, Black Pelican. 

The weather was chillier than we anticipated so we spent some time curled up by the fire place and spent a lot of time in the hot tub!!  We managed to get better weather toward the end of the week which we were thankful for.

Some “hoots” of the trip included:

1. My rib dislocating (happens occasionally).  So Keith got to push that puppy back into place and I spent the day in bed and drugged up.
2. Keith took his cell phone for a swim in the pool so we were down to one phone because somebody doesn’t think insurance is necessary “because I’ve never lost or broke a phone.”
3. We had two birds commit suicide in our pool.  The first one we found minutes before the pool girl got there and she assured us that the chlorine content was so high we would be fine.  We found the second one 2 days later.  RIP feathered friends.

Some of my favorite memories:

1. Having a whole week just to enjoy a simple life and celebrate finally being married.
2. We saw dolphins a few times….in all of my years of going to the beach, I have never got to see dolphins that well.
3. Having breakfast on our upper deck every morning.  It was peaceful and gorgeous and my favorite part of the days. 
4. Seeing the look on my husbands face when he saw the damage I can do with crab legs.

Unfortunately, the week came to an end and we got up early Saturday morning to head home.  We made a few stops along the way, but made it home at a decent hour.  Unpacking wasn’t the most fun thing to do, but we survived and feel blessed to have such amazing honeymoon memories. 

Happily Ever After Begins Here....

It has been 39 days since my wedding and on every one of those days, I have thought to myself, write down everything about your wedding so you never forget the things that made it “your day” (I have a lot of conversations with myself).

Anyway, today I’m doing just that…..

Thursday May 2.

I woke up early to do all of my errands and then operation stalk Sams Club floral shipment began.  According to the website, 1 of 6 boxes had shipped…the others were MIA.  I had a fun little convo with the customer service rep who thought I was a crazy bridezilla (I was nice, just frantic), and he promised me I would see them by early afternoon.  Around that time, the doorbell rang and the wedding weekend madness began.  I headed to Kathy’s house with enough flowers to decorate a graveyard and the centerpiece making began.  We made 25 centerpieces, assorted vases, a cake topper and somehow managed to not kill each other along the way.  Me, Jenna, Kathy and Lisa cut, tucked, stuffed, plucked and arranged our little hearts out. 

After that ended, it was off to run a ton of errands and make the first of many deliveries to Ramada.  I fell into bed way too late but managed to get some sleep.

*This is also the day my sister decided to find the broken bone in her foot and get put in a walking cast….attention hog!!!  j/k

Friday May 3

And the madness continues….I started this day out the right way, with caffeine.  After that, it is all a whirlwind.  I was stressing out at first because I thought I had too many people that were willing to help, but my thoughts on that quickly changed.  I had the perfect number of people helping and they’re all God-sent.  I had people decorating, picking up cookies, picking up food – they were basically my brains, my feet and my sanity. 

We took time for pedicures, Happy Meals and manicures around noon and then immediately got back to work.  At the church, we were having major musical malfunctions and I honestly thought my poor guitarist/soloist was going to run away and never come back.  That guy (and his wife) were real troopers and solved the problem. 

Overall, I stayed pretty calm and managed to get showered and back to the church in time for rehearsal so I can’t complain.  My poor wedding planner had been put on bed rest (she had a happy, healthy baby boy!!) so it was interesting to run my own rehearsal with the help of Ms. Jenna.  She and I worked together a while back and she’s just as OCD as I am so she was perfect to step in and take the reigns. 

We rehearsed a few times, made some tweaks and moved on to the more important part of the evening – Rehearsal Dinner.  My Aunt Kathy and Stepmother, Lisa had gone to the ranch before us and had everything ready to go.  The food, the decorations, the weather and even the darn ducks, were perfect.   Keith’s parents hosted the dinner and I think everyone enjoyed the laid back evening.

My MOHs both surprised me with sweet gifts…Heidi got me a ring pillow Pandora charm and April got me a bracelet with our favorite quote on it.  I would have cried if I had the energy to do so.  It was also fun to give our families and bridal party members their gifts. 

After dinner clean-up, I got my last single girl kiss, ran more errands, went to Ramada Inn (again!) and finally went home to crawl into bed.  Wedding prep is just plain exhausting.

Saturday May 4

THE day had finally arrived.  I’d dreamed about my wedding for 25+ years and even on that morning it still had not sunk in that it was my turn…in some ways it felt like another day as a bridesmaid. 

Heidi and I went to Starbucks and Panera to get coffee and bagels and then we met the crew at 3Cs Salon.  Lisa and Melissa wrestled 8 heads of hair into side knots for the girls and a pile of curls for me. 

We went straight to the church and they finally let me sneak off to Ramada to get a quick sneak peek!!  Everything looked amazing (those wedding planners at Ramada can run a reception lol) so I calmed down and went back to the church.  My flowers were arriving as I got there and they were more beautiful than I ever imagined.  Zia Floral is a newer company in town and I am SO glad I went with them….such amazingly sweet people and beautiful, high quality work!!  April paid the balance on my flowers, because her heart is far bigger than I could ever deserve…and around that time I found a few minutes to let some tears pop out. 

Suddenly it was time to get ready (not sure how that snuck up on me), but I was put in the make-up chair and the madness began.  Halfway through getting my face applied, Keith had my wedding gift and wedding letter delivered….insert more tears.  Melissa (M Salon) went back to fixing my face and before long I was stepping into my dress with cameras, video cameras and all eyes on me.  Still doesn’t seem real. 

At some point my flower girl was MIA and the story later is told that my wedding cake took a nosedive in transit and her poor mother was trying to save the cake that her and her husband so lovingly got us as our gift.  All I know was it was the best tasting wedding cake I have ever have and no one would ever know that it was originally a little taller and bigger and pretty much ruined a poor SUV. 

Things really start hoping at this point.  My Daddio gets his first peek (cry some more) and I showed the girls my “something old and something blue” (cry some more).  Lisa and Rhonda Allen made me a patch that said “Mommy” out of my Mom’s old blue pajamas and it was sewn into my dress near the bottom.  After that I remember getting my veil and comb put on, grabbing some flowers and away we went.  I don’t remember feeling nervous, just thirsty and rushed. 

I walked down the aisle, and married the man I love….simple as that. 

Well sorta, the beginning went something like this, “Dearly beloved we are gathered here today in the presence of God and these witnesses to unite Keith and Heidi in holy matrimony.”  (Insert gasp from the crowd)  “Ummm I mean Holly.”  Yup, my sister was offered to my husband. 

Keith also later shared the special fact that Perry had a bathroom issue that resulted in him having a little bit of kid pee on his hands during the whole ceremony (I still insist he could have made time for an emergency hand wash even if the preacher had already started walking out!!)….isn’t that special?!?!?  I held those hands for at least a good 15 minutes lol

My Pastor then went on to forget my hand blessing ceremony completely, but at the end, we were married, and my singer found a way to make my music happen, and it was perfect.  I can’t wait to see the video and see all the little things I missed.  I hear the flower girl threw her petals t-ball style and who knows what else happened, but it is still perfect in my mind. 

For once, it was mine.  I didn’t have to fix anyone’s dress, or hold anyone’s flowers, or do anything but be the bride (don’t get me wrong, I love being part of my friend’s weddings!!)  It was a total 27 Dresses kinda moment lol

We did pictures at Dorsey’s Knob (almost had to beat up a cranky groomsman) and then headed to the reception.  We were introduced and then put at the head table for dinner.  I was so overwhelmed at that point that I couldn’t even eat (that never happens to me haha), but by the time dinner was over, I was feeling better. 

I remember telling people as we danced, that I felt like a princess.  For the first time in 31 years, I felt beautiful (I’m really not conceited).  God, I hope I never forget how magical that felt.  I loved my dress and my veil and be married to the handsome guy beside me.  I wish time could have stood still.  But the night progressed and we didn’t have enough time to say hello to everyone, but we danced and chatted and enjoyed our night. 

Perry and I had a cute moment….someone asked for a Riggle family photo and he looked at me and asked “You’re my family now??”…..I told him “Yes” and asked if that was ok with him and with a shoulder shrug, I was told, “Sure.”

Around 8:30, we were playing in the photo booth and I was chugging water by the pitcher.  I think I grabbed a few cookies from the awesome cookie buffet that our friends and family had created, but after that I just remember being tired. 

We finally made our way to our honeymoon suite that the girls had decorated.  I managed to bust a votive holder on the floor so we got to call housekeeping to borrow a broom.  Even on my wedding day, I wasn’t any less clumsy.   And that was the end of our wedding day. 

The next installment will be Honeymoon 101….